Resources to Support Transgender and Nonbinary Identities
Pronoun Usage
What is a Pronoun?
A pronoun is a word used in place of someone's name. Example: "Peter the Anteater is here! He is ready to cheer!"
Why are Pronouns important?
No matter your gender identity, gender can be very important to someone's sense of self.
It is very important to know that you cannot visually tell if someone's gender.
Asking for pronouns can prevent emotional distress from happening, and sets an example of respect.
How do you know what pronouns to use?
Simpliest way is to ask when you are introducing yourself Example: "My name is Scotty, and I use they/them pronouns. What about you?"
When leading a large group, such as an organization, committee, or classroom. Have everyone introduce themselves with names and pronouns to vreate a respectful and validating space.
You can also put your pronouns in your email signatures, which can help continue to create a culture of respect.
What should you do if you make a Mistake?
Most people appreciate a quick apology and coreection. Try not to draw more attention to your mistake. Example: "She like - I'm sorry - They like that show as well."
Do not address people by pronouns or names that they do not use, even if the person used the names or pronouns in the past.
Do not make excuses, as it can frustrate and invalidate others. Apologize, correct yourself, and do your best to use correct pronouns from then on.
Examples of Pronouns and their utilization
He/Him/His He Knows | I'll Ask Him | That Is His
She/Her/Hers She Knows | I'll Ask Her | That Is Hers
They/Them/Theirs They Know | I'll Ask Them | That Is Theirs
Ze/Zir/Zirs Ze Knows | I'll Ask Zir | that Is Zirs
According to The Trevor Project's 2020 National Survey, 1 in 4 youth (ages 13-24) go by pronouns other than he/him or she/her. For transgender and nonbinary youth, being referred to by the correct name and pronouns is a simple gesture of support.
In honor ofComing Out Day,BestColleges.comcreated a pronouns guide. Our guide covers why it is important to use personal pronouns, using gender pronouns for equity and inclusion, and educational resources. Take a look below: https://www.bestcolleges.com/resources/gender-pronouns-lgbtq-students/
