Safe Partying and Safe Sex
What is safe partying and why do we think this is useful to students?
We recognize that part of the college experience is exploring new social situations and meeting new people in a variety of ways. This sheet comes with the recognition that many students, although certainly not all, like to go out to bars, parties, or other locations where they may be drinking or using drugs. This sheet is intended to provide students with methods to decrease their risk while still having fun.
• Eat before and drink water while you are drinking and after you are finished—it will help keep you from feeling nauseated and help to prevent a hangover.
• Whether you’re at a bar or a party, always watch your drink being poured to make sure that you know what is being put in it.
• Never let your drink out of your sight—don’t leave it alone and don’t accept drinks from people you don’t know or drinks you haven’t seen poured. Get a new drink rather than drink from one you’re not sure about.
• Maintain a buddy system in which you or one of your friends stays sober to help people if necessary.
• Watch how much and what you drink—not all types of drinks have the same amount of alcohol and will get you drunk much faster with certain alcohols than others. Avoid mixing alcohols. Know your limits and stick to them.
• NEVER DRINK AND DRIVE!!! Assign a designated driver beforehand.
• If someone has passed out, has slow breathing, or has cold or bluish skin, they probably have alcohol poisoning and are in danger of dying. Call 911 immediately. While waiting for the ambulance, prop the person on their side, which will keep them from choking if they vomit.
• Before you start drinking, know your sexual and relationship boundaries, communicate them clearly to friends, peers, and those you trust, and stick to them.
• Respect other people’s boundaries—remember that having sex with someone when one or more of you is under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and is thus unable to give consent, is defined by law as rape. The best way to avoid this is to educate yourself about rape and sexual assault laws both in the state and on campus.
• Before engaging in sexual activity or starting a relationship, figure out your sexual and relationship boundaries—know what you want, what you don’t want, and how to communicate these things to other people.
• Educate yourself about sexuality, safe sex, contraception, STDs, pregnancy, relationships, etc. (Note: if you are taking oral contraceptives and throwing up from alcohol or anything else, your birth control is coming up along with everything else—therefore you are rendering it non-effective and should use another form of birth control if you plan on having sex).
• If you are planning on or interested in hooking up with anyone, always bring safer sex supplies, such as condoms, dental dams, latex gloves, and lube.
• Have a safety word if you decide to engage in sexual activity.
• Avoid sexual activity while under the influence.
• Get tested for HIV every 6 months (or 3 months if potentially exposed) and other STDs every year if you are sexually active.
• Never take someone’s word about when they were last tested for STDs (especially if you just met them)—use safer sex supplies anyway.
• When going out with someone new, go to a public place and let a friend know where you are going.
• Be extremely careful with people you don’t know—be careful about going home with strangers and have a plan if something were to go wrong (i.e.,: carry a cell phone and money for a cab so you always have a way home, take self defense classes and know how to get away from someone, etc.).
• If you’re going to hook up with someone, talk about what each of you want out of the situation to avoid unnecessary broken hearts or other bad outcomes.
• If you call 911 from a cell phone (or an emergency key 9 on some), you will get the California High way Patrol in Sacramento. If this is far away from where you spend most of your time, save the local police department’s number into your phone and set this number as a one-touch dialing number. This way you can get immediate help in an emergency rather than waiting to be patched through by Sacramento. However, if you call 911 or hit the emergency button from a campus phone, it will connect directly to the UCPD.
• Always know what you’re taking and be careful not to mix substances.
• Educate yourself about drug laws.
• Educate yourself about effects, symptoms, and side effects of what you’re taking so you know what to expect.
• If you use drugs, do so in the company of people you trust.
• Maintain a buddy system in which at least one of you or your friends stay sober to look out for the rest. This person should also be the designated driver (remember, driving under the influence of drugs is just as dangerous and illegal as driving drunk) and educated about the drugs you and your friends are consuming.
• Drink water often—it can help prevent dehydration, which can be a dangerous side effect of some drugs.
• Go easy—don’t take too much or too often. The idea is to enjoy yourself, not to get sick or die.
• If someone appears to have overdosed or you’re not sure, call 911 immediately. Save whatever they took to give to medical professionals (this can help them know how to help the person).
• Avoid sexual activity while under the influence.
Student Health Center
501 Student Health
Irvine, CA 92697-5200
Phone: (949) 824-5301
California Legislative Information www.leginfo.ca.gov
UCI Police Department
Promoting health and safety in the rave and nightclub community
UCI Police Safety Escorts
(949) 824-SAFE (7233)
There are many methods you can take in order to lower the risk of both sexually transmit- ted disease and pregnancy during sex.
• Condoms come in both male and female form.
• Male condoms are placed on the penis. They work by capturing the ejaculatory fluid from the penis after it is released and by protecting the penis from the vagina’s natural secretions.
• Female condoms are placed inside the vagina. They work by capturing the ejaculatory fluid from the penis after it is released and by protecting the penis from the vagina’s natural secretions.
• Both types of condoms protect both partners from sexually transmitted diseases.
• Do not use both types of condoms at the same time.
• Condoms are meant for one time use only.
• Do not share condoms with others if it has already been used.
• If a condom breaks, you should immediately stop and replace it with a new one.
• Using lubrication can help prevent a condom from breaking during sexual activity.
• Dental dams are sheets of latex or silicone and they are used to engage in safe oral sex.
• Dental dams are used by placing them over the labia for oral-vaginal sex or over the anus for oral-anal sex.
• Dental dams help reduce the risk of spreading and catching sexually transmitted diseases.
Other ways to engage in safe sex:
• Non-penetrative sex is when you engage in sexual acts that do not involve penetration of any kind.
• These acts can include kissing, mutual masturbation, rubbing, etc.
• Non-penetrative sex can prevent pregnancy and most sexually transmitted diseases.
• It does not protect you from skin-to-skin transmitted diseases.
• Some people choose to use sex toys in sexual acts in order to have safer sex.
• Toys can include dildos, fleshlights, vibrators, etc.
• Sex toys help protect from both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
• If you share a toy with someone, it is important that you properly clean the toy after one person uses it (do not use it immediately after your partner).
• Using a condom on sex toys, such as dildos, can help make cleaning easier.
• Use of lubrication with toys can help make the experience more enjoyable and can help lower the risk of a condom breaking if a condom is used.
• Abstinence is when a person chooses not to engage in any form of sexual acts.
• Engaging in abstinence prevents a person from pregnancy and from catching and passing on sexually transmitted diseases through sexual acts.
Health Education Center
G319 Student Center
Irvine, CA 92697
LGBT Resource Center
G301 Student Center
Irvine, CA 92697